(part duex) with Kim Jackson

Last week I asked about your plan to escape the drudgery that is your job; that is...if you want to escape. But, something came to me; as most things do, in the midst of conversation with others. How do you escape? No, not how do you wind down and relax for the weekend. But, how do you escape everything else?

How do you escape from a never-ending conversation? No matter how many times you say ‘Alright, now; I’ll talk to you later'...they always got another question, comment, or blah, blah, blah.

How do you escape from a dead-end relationship? No matter how many times you say 'No, I'm sorry; but we can’t be together anymore'...they always have another compromise, promise, or way to put you on a pedestal while they suffer just so they can be with you.

How do you escape being a parent? Okay, don.t get your undies in a bunch...work with me here. Being a parent is hard work and yes, you can get a break here and there with Grandma and the occasional sleep over; but, how do you make sure that they know that they are on borrowed time because they can’t live out the remainder of their days mooching off you?

Something happens when we come to the realization that control is out of our grasp. That's simply what the issue is...a matter of control. You want the conversation to end. You want the relationship to end. You want the never ending responsibilities to end. I hate to break it to you...but it's not totally up to you. Although some people think that it is; and often become emotional on a number of levels when they are faced with the truth that they can't control anything.  There are a number of things outside our realm of control. The weather. Time. Other people. Did you catch that last one? You can only control yourself. You may think you have some control…'I told her, she betta be in the house at 11. I don't care about it being girl's night out.' Like I said...you may THINK you have that control. You see, a person will only give you as much control (or power) as they are willing to let you have. Now, I must point out that I am speaking in regards to normal people. Not the ones that feel inadequate or have self depreciating and self debilitating insecurities. And if that describes you...I sincerely apologize and COWBOY up! We've had spines for eons...USE IT! But, you can't become emotional when you lose that control or you realize that you never really had it anyway. Honestly...you just shouldn't. And in case you were wondering...why can't I show that I'm upset? Or hurt? It's simple really...because you are too old to be throwing tantrums. And essentially...that's what you're doing.

And bottom line...a grown man or woman throwing a tantrum because they can't have want they want, is a very sad and disturbing sight. And should be recorded for the rest of us to laugh at you later.