First of all dating a guy that is God fearing is probably a plus for MOST of my sisters out there…but, I am going to shed some light on why it is really crucial and beneficial.   Choosing a mate with a solid foundation is necessary to starting healthy relationships. 

Disclaimer: More power to you if this is not on your list of relationship requirements.  But, I’m really interested to know how that works out for you…

In perspective, a guy that has governance over his lifestyle will actually spare you some of the drama that you face with other guys.  You may have heard that “love doesn’t stop a man from cheating but, respect will.”  That is mostly a true statement when only referring to the romantic type of love.   The last time I checked, being romantically in love with one woman has never prevented a man from looking elsewhere.  On the contrary, true love endures all and respect (reverence) is a huge part of it.  This type of respect will prevent him from even considering cheating.  It will also prevent him from leading you on if he is not really interested in being with you long-term... Can we say dead-end or meaningless relationship?

Now it is possible to find a respectful guy without the above criteria.  But, they are few and far between…This guy typically puts women in a category after a few days of knowing her.  He either puts a woman in the “wife” category or the “friend” category.  Now a woman that has been put in a “wife” category can easily slip back into the “friend” category if he finds that her character is un-lady like.  Unlike the first scenario, this guy will not pass up the opportunity to waste the time of his new found “friend” in a meaningless relationship.  Look for the warning signs and don’t become a victim.  Better yet, learn from your mistakes because you have probably gotten hoodwinked already by this type of guy.  At the same time, this guy is very capable of holding his heart for the lady that fits the “wife” category.  I know it is ironic but, this guy is actually capable of respecting the lady that he puts into the “wife” category.  Also note that it is almost impossible for a lady to get promoted from a “friend” category to the “wife” category.  This is especially true if you are a “friend” with benefits.  If you are a woman on this highway, please get off at the nearest exit.  Choose the Godly way and abstain until marriage.  The guy that really wants you will wait as long as it takes provided that he knows there is a future for him.

Now that we have gotten that out of the way… let’s look at what makes a guy receptive while in a relationship.  Things like praising what he provides to the relationship or showing an interest in his aspirations will always keep him confident.  Playing the role of a provider is essential to a man feeling like he is contributing to a relationship.   Confidence allows him to be his true self and can also strengthen your attraction to him.  On the flip side, resentment and bitterness usually occurs when a man doesn’t find his purpose in the relationship.  This can and will cause things to be a little rocky.  These reactions are for the most part avoidable with a woman that is supportive.  Please note that just allowing a man to call you his lady is NOT enough for him.  I know that this a shocker to some of you but, a man with no purpose will often act out due to his inability to feel depended upon.   Also, please note that it is not your responsibility to teach a man how to play his role.  You are wasting your time if he senses that you are trying to coax and teach him life lessons.

Next time we will talk about specific scenarios that may cause Men to act out in relationships.  Sorry to leave you hanging but, check back soon for part II. 

Until later…